The Deadly Soft Spot

Surprisingly, even those with the most control over their emotions will admit that with certain people, or with a certain someone, logic is completely out of the equation.

As someone who follows their brain over their heart, it physically pains me to remember -and see (as it is still a prevailing issue)- my actions when it comes to the one I have a soft spot for.

The more embarrassing factor I would like to point out here is out of all the men I've encountered, he makes it in my top 10 worst. The question looms: why, despite the evident drawbacks, do I harbor a soft spot for him?

Is there always going to be one person we will have a soft spot for?

I wrote about this a while back, left it in my drafts because, honestly, I was stumped. But here's the plot twist—I'm using the past tense now. Turns out, it is possible to move on, but only for someone truly worth it.

I can finally share my story. The guy I claimed to have a soft spot for? He's not your conventional sweetheart. An old crush turned tormentor, justifying his meanness with a misguided claim of affection. Eight years later, after experiencing love for the first time, he means nothing to me. The veil has lifted, and I see him for who he truly is - a disrespectful individual. Yes, he's changed, improved, but he doesn't fit into the standard of my life.

He is a toxic being, persistently reminding me of his existence every time I try to move on. Suddenly I found myself in love, and then he texted me. Again and again. Responding felt wrong—a conflict with my newfound commitment. How would my significant other feel? So, I decided to cut ties with him, and it's liberating. Cutting contact has brought a sense of freedom, allowing me to focus on the love that truly matters in my life.

What I want to emphasize is that it shouldn't have taken me this long to sever ties. Falling in love shouldn't have been the catalyst, but that's how it unfolded. If you find yourself in a similar situation, my advice is simple: just do it. End it. Don't wait for a reason, because your well-being is reason enough. In fact, it's the best reason. Prioritize your happiness and don't drag out something that isn't good for you.

I've missed you. Apologies for the absence; I'm back.

Ever found yourself drawn to someone, despite the compelling reasons to resist?

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Email: candourchronicles@outlook.com