Soulmates or Pure Convenience?

Are they really the person you would stick by throughout all of life's twists, turns, and tests, or is it just comfortable, enjoyable, and beneficial for you - at this moment?

I believe loving someone is a choice you make every day. Upon meeting someone, there could be that instant attraction and chemistry. After talking to them, you realize you share so much more in common and begin to imagine a future together. It all seems great until an incident, and you're faced to choose whether you want to brawl and stay by their side or leave. Because nothing is holding you down. You can just leave.

How did a relationship that felt like the missing puzzle piece of your life suddenly feel so misplaced? Was it the excitement and adrenaline? Did you not know them enough? Doesn't matter. Are you willing to overlook their flaws, and work to make it work? That matters.

But then you ponder if things will ever go back to the way they were. Is this just a rough patch that you can both overcome and somehow manage to love each other harder than ever? Or is it really unsalvagable? How will you know if you don't try? Yet are they worth the fight? The effort? You must also consider how hard they are willing to work. A battle isn't one without both sides engaging.

These are all questions I leave for you to answer with the condition of being truthful to yourself. They may have been the perfect person for you at that moment of your life, but the moment passed. You grew. They grew. Do you still work together? Is it healthy? Maybe time apart will help you achieve your goals. Maybe it will help you work on yourself. Maybe it will prepare you for the future relationship you will have with them (if they really were right for you). All the previous questions and statements can be applied to your partner. What if you have been doing all the growing, and now it's their turn?

Always remind yourself that loving someone does not mean needing to be with them. At the end of the day, you have to do what's best for you, because no one will care about you more than you should care for yourself. Everyone has their own lives and worries. Everyone is their own main character in their books.

Personally, I still haven't met my "the one". Or maybe I did. There is this one coffee shop guy I'm basically obsessed with. But I never saw him again. And I can't help but wonder what would have happened between us in another lifetime - because he really did seem like the one.

Have you found your one?

Tell me your story. Give me a chapter of your book.

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A special thank you to the reader who inspired this piece; M.B.